After many years of being carefully hidden, sex toys are now coming out into the open, and have even become synonymous with liberated and assumed sexuality. Used solo or as a couple, to discover your body or to push your limits, for foreplay or to reach orgasm, they come in a multitude of shapes, colors and finishes, for all tastes and budgets.
Capable of providing many pleasures, they have the capacity to revive a dormant libido, or even to rekindle the flame as a couple. But why and how can such a small object provide so much ecstasy? Explanations.
Sex toys, great champions for simulating herogenic zones.
Popularized by television series such as Sex & The City or by various women’s magazines, sex toys are on the rise, and for good reason! Specially designed to titillate your erogenous zones and make you reach 7th Heaven, they allow you to pleasure yourself in no time. Far from the simple vibrating duck or the simple plastic dildo of yesteryear, today’s sex toys have been designed to make you enjoy without fail. Resulting from many years of research, they now have finishes adapted to your particular needs. For example, a woman who is more vaginal will be able to benefit from vibrators adorned with pearls, nubs or textured, with a tip that is rather flexible and firm at the same time, capable of stimulating the G spot. Clitoral women will be able to set their sights on a specific external stimulator, which will gently provide them with intense sensations, without necessarily needing penetration. Finally, lovers of anal pleasure will be able to invest in a range entirely dedicated to them, including vibrators made up of balls of different sizes adapted to this part of the anatomy. Furthermore, certain mixed collections have been designed to stimulate several areas at the same time, such as for example the famous Rabbit, capable of massaging the clitoris while stimulating the G-spot. The main strong point of these new objects is therefore based on their ability to satisfy individual needs.
When you’re just starting a relationship, passion is often there: the novelty, the desire to try everything, the enthusiasm of the beginnings, indeed guarantee fiery lovemaking… Which can unfortunately run out of steam very quickly! Sex toys can then be a good way to re-boost the your partner’s libido, whether you have been in a relationship for 3 months or 30 years! You can, for example, integrate them into your foreplay: a vibrator handled by a man can, for example, allow vaginal lubrication on his partner, a model dedicated to anal will help to relax this sensitive area if you want to try sodomy, etc. They also avoid limiting themselves to the classic missionary/amazon combo, or the eternal 69 during foreplay. Maintaining your libido requires novelty and variety, and this is precisely what sex toys guarantee, with ever more modern and expanded collections.
A good way to test new practices!
Used in soft submission/domination games, they are also terribly effective and will be a good way to introduce you to the pleasures of SM style 50 Shades of Gray ! Indeed, what could be more exciting than letting your partner take control over your sexual desire, for example by being blindfolded and inviting them to simulate herogenic zones thanks to a vibrator that will put you in a trance? The most daring can use them with fur handcuffs, or even try bondage: a good way to break the routine and try new games as a couple! Likewise, if you want to try sodomy but this practice scares you, you can always start slowly, with a modest-sized anal sex toy, which will allow you to tame this technique gently. You will then know if this really attracts you or not, and you can calmly consider going further!
Gently reconnect with your body.
The drop in libido can also have many causes, especially in women: taking a contraceptive pill or medication which leads to a drop in desire, problems with lubrication, chronic vaginismus… Sex toys are then a good way to gently rekindle desire, at your own pace, and reconnect with your personal pleasure. It is in fact absolutely essential to be confident, comfortable with your body, to be able to envisage pleasant sexual relations with your partner. Sex toys ensure that the pleasure is still there, and that the body functions normally, by calming down a drop in desire and gradually reconnecting with your sexuality.
How to choose your sex toy for your personal pleasure?
Remember to choose your sex toy based on your own needs. This is even more valid if it’s the very first time you use this type of object! Sex toys used for vaginal penetration will allow you to tame the muscles in this area, and to learn how to better direct them, especially when it comes to relaxing them to facilitate penetration. They will then be particularly useful to women suffering from vaginismus. It is recommended here to use them calmly, for their personal pleasure, without pressure, in order to progress little by little. If you are new to using them, opt for a small and simple model that is easy to use, then invest later in larger models if you feel the desire.
The sex toy is also a good way to (re)discover your body, to see what suits you (or not) and to target your erogenous zones.
It turns out to be particularly useful for finding the G-spot… And therefore guiding your partner when couple games !
Arouse your partner easily and quickly.
With a partner, sex toys can be used to compensate for a drop in desire: combined with caresses, kisses and other sweet words whispered in the ear, they will certainly allowexcite your partner as part of the preliminaries. They will thus facilitate lubrication, and guarantee comfortable intercourse. They can also make your partner’s libido skyrocket during intercourse and increase orgasms: for example, you can combine anal pleasure with a sex toy and vaginal orgasm during penetration (or vice versa), use a clitoral stimulator in addition to a classic position, etc. The possibilities for shared pleasures are endless!
In private… Or as a couple?
Are you feeling adventurous? Do you want to break the monotony of everyday life? So why not try using sex toys… Outside of the bedroom? There are in fact sex toys that are invisible once worn, controlled remotely, capable of arousing your partner without needing to touch them! They come in the form of eggs to be placed inside the vagina, which are therefore not visible at all once you are dressed. All you have to do is give the remote control to your partner, who can trigger it at any time, in public or in private. A good way to simulate heroic zones… And to give free rein to your passions once alone!
And if the secret for maintain your partner’s libido was simply the novelty and the desire to experience new things?
It’s now up to you to get started!
Last updated on 19 July 2024
